Friday, 20 July 2012

Compliment Me, Or Don't, I Guess

I have two prompts for you today, but may throw in a few others if it doesn't really seem anything like long enough. But these are two prompts that go together well at least.

What are you complimented on most?
In the words of our Lord saviour Darren Hayes "I am famous for my generosity, they say I am the kindest." I'm complimented most of course on my personality. That frankly non-existant never give up and never say die attitude of mine. My capacity for love and compassion. How far I'm willing to go for people. I've had others actually say they wouldn't go as far as me, though I've never regarded that as anything special. I always shrugged it off and said anyone would have done the same. But it seems they wouldn't. Something happened yesterday as well though that has never happened. Someone actually complimented me on my looks. People say I have good hair and eyes before, but yesterday someone said they like my nose and my lips. They even went as far as to call me a "good looking guy". Let me tell you, those are three words that have never been used to describe me. It came as quite a pleasant surprise really. But yes, I mostly get praise for my personality and mental aspects of me over my physical. People compliment my writing a lot as well. I'm not very good at taking compliments really.

Something you never get compliments on.
Well like I just said, my looks really. But let's face it there isn't really much to compliment. I've been called cute before sure, but there's a difference between being cute and being good looking. I rarely get complimented on my work ethic, outside the blog anyway. You guys see me as some kind of super hard worker but nah I'm regarded as being quite lazy in the real world. There's a difference between being lazy and being unmotivated. It's not that I won't do something, it's that my brain won't tell me I can. In order to think that there is something I do that is worthy of praise, but is never praised, I would need an ego really. I would need to be able to think "Hey, I'm good at that, and that's not something everyone can do" and really there isn't anything I can do like that. I suppose in a way there's nothing I don't get complimented on, because I don't think of myself as doing, or being, anything worth complimenting. If you think there's something I do that you've never really complimented me on, then now is the time to do it.

I've reached a point now where most of the questions go together, so I'm going to have to leave it at that one. I guess I stuck to the theme of the post at least.


  1. It is surprising how different we are in our "real" lives as opposed to our blogger lives. Many of us come off as confident and self assured when in reality most of us are really quite shy and somewhat insecure. I would never think of you as unmotivated or as someone who can't do something special.

    You do something ever day that I could never do. And that is blog. I can only do 2-3 posts per week. And even then, after a few weeks, the contact with people starts to get to me and I have to withdrawal for a while.

    Don't sell yourself short Mark. You've got more going for you than you think you do.

  2. What you listed are actually good traits man. That capacity to never give up no matter how shit things get is a real good one and I guarantee you it'll pay off. And at least you were complimented on your looks yesterday right, that's something to be happy about?

    I'm sure you're not a bad looking bloke either although I can't say I've ever seen a real photo of you, great post anyway my friend, it's great the questions now fit.

  3. I'll compliment you on your poetry. I just came back from a writers' workshop, and trying to write poetry was not only mentally, but physically exhausting as well.
    And you're good at it.
    Shows how good you are.

  4. To me you are a beautiful soul. You show kindness and support to all the blogs I see you comment on (and to me too)
    I haven't seen you so I can't comment on the physical but you show a real commitment to this blog and your friends. That to me is very special

  5. Honestly, it kind of baffles me, why you often portray yourself as lacking confidence. After listening to your last podcast, anyone who can speak that eloquently off the cuff, really has no reason to ever doubt themselves. So there, that is my compliment. In a twisted way, I would prefer compliments about physical appearance if I could get any, because that's what society seems to value. When people tell me I'm "such a nice guy" they usually tell me that in the middle of taking advantage of me, so I almost cringe when I hear that.

  6. We all could use some compliments every now and then. You have the ability to blog every day. I feel overwhelmed if I post more than once a week. Not to mention to try to comment on every blog in my blogroll. That, to me, is impossible. But you do it so effortlessly it seems.

  7. I think you don't give yourself enough credit. You should. I think you are pretty awesome!

  8. I'm not very good at accepting compliments either, even on the Internet. Although, I can say that people have called me good looking, it's not what people usually go for when they want to compliment me either.

    Your personality attributes are things to be proud of. Beauty fades, etc, etc. I usually get, "you're funny," which is not really as impressive. :)

    A compliment you say? You write great posts about compliments.

  9. Wy is half of the post highlighted like that? Hard to read. ):
    A good personality gets you a thousand times farther than anything else. Sure it's not the quickest, but the reach is huge!

    I compliment you on your awesome blogging skills that surpass mine, your good writing skills, and you. Yes, I'm complimenting you on you.

  10. Yeah, I act like a raving lunatic on my blog, but I'm actually very timid in real life. I'm not shy nor am I quiet, but I am most certainly not violent.

    I've never been commented on my looks, myself (exept by a girlfriend or two). I'm usually described as "the normal looking guy" because I really don't have any distinguishable features. And I've been told by a child that I look like a serial killer which is believable I suppose. I look like the guy on the CSI shows that the audience immediate points and says, "Yep, that guy's the killer."

  11. If I may, I want to compliment your eloquence. You put so many good words together and I thoroughly enjoy reading your posts!

    I'm not much of a good-compliment-acceptor either, on the rare occasion when some guy calls me beautiful or pretty, I tend to laugh it off and step away. But the compliments you've received should definitely be considered more sincere and deep (i.e. meaningful and worth having)! :)

  12. I think people don't hand out compliments freely much anymore. At least in the real world. On blogger there seems to be a lot more compliments handed out because people's walls are down.

  13. I know what you mean it's always difficult to take compliments. A friend of mine once said it's easier to take insults than compliments. I'm glad you liked the fantasy pictures! xxx

  14. My family enjoys calling me lazy, but honestly I know it's a load of bullshit, because my brain is constantly running at a million miles a minute--- as I'm sure yours is too.

    I've gotten compliments on my looks from friends before, but my mind is always sabotaging me thinking that they /have/ to say that because they're my friends. And random creeps that I don't know will whistle or wink at me suggestively whenever I go out for my runs-- But I'm pretty sure they do that to any female that crosses their path.

    I don't know. I'm very self conscious so taking compliments on my looks is hard for me to accept.

    I'd much rather be complimented for things like the qualities you possess. You're a kind, understanding, and wise person (at least that's my perception of you) and to me those qualities alone are much better than appearances. A lot of people say that personalities are secondary to good looks, but I think that it's quite the opposite.

    Give yourself some credit Mark, you're awesome. And if I knew you IRL I'd make baked goods in your honor.

  15. I think I'm lazy and unmotivated.

  16. This is great thank you.

  17. Well you know there's only one way to settle this, put up a picture of yourself so we can see whether your cute, or whether your good looking ;)
    I joke, I joke, you do come across as a very caring and sweet person though. It might not be reciprocated, but one day it'll help you nab a good las ;D

  18. I would love to be called cute. Most of my female friends are considered cute or adorable by most, and I've always envied them for that. You would be surprised what you can get away with when people find you to be cute.


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