Thursday, 1 March 2012

Wishing My Life Away

Happy March everyone. If you're taking part in Black March best of luck to you, but that's not what I'm posting about. I'm posting about how I'm not wishing my life away. This post part inspired by a comment Henry made at his blog. 

"Everyday you can say, "I'd like to X one day. Just not right now" and one day you'll wake up to find yourself dead. Out of time."

See I do a lot of wishing, and saying I'll do something one day. I probably do it too much, but hey it's nice to have goals right? Well, as long as you go through with them. Normally when I say I'd like to do something, I mean I will do it. I have several grand plans. Considering the fact I've not really planned my life out at all (I should probably make a start on that) I make a lot of smaller plans. Which all weave together into one big plan.

So just what would I like to do? I'd like to know archery, how to ride a horse, classical dancing, a martial art (one day I'll probably take Tae Kwon Do back up), fencing/kendo, a musical instrument would be nice but I can accept if I can't actually do it, travelling, and even falconry. Oh and free running/parkour. Yes, I'm incredibly old fashioned. Very much so. So what am I doing right now in order to attain these goals? Well there are several things I need, the most important of all is confidence. I need to be able to go into a task with the thought that I can do it. This is something I'm not brilliant at but I'm getting there. Or I would be if my efforts to lose weight were more successful.

That's something else I need to work on. I know that I don't really need to be thin to do most of what I want, but I do need a general level of fitness. Also yes most of those can give me a heightened level of fitness. I actually own a wooden sword (I'm dangerous, no way I need a real one yet) and I do play around with it a bit. So far I've only managed to kill one light bulb. 

There are several positive steps in my life I can take. One would be to join a gym, but I don't have the confidence for that. Or the funds actually. I can also try to find some kind of martial arts lessons around here. But I don't know how successful that venture would be. Plus, again, confidence.

The general point really is that I'm not just wishing my life away, I'm also doing something about achieving my goals and dreams, and you should do the same. Despite how depressing my life can be right now, I wanted to focus on this more. Plus there is such a thing as a problem that just can't be blogged about. 

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  1. LOL! I can just work out until I get sick, which is REAL easy considering my drafty, tiny cabin.

    Can't wait 'til I can get a job (hopefully soon) and move back to Bellingham where they have hot water, civilization, and a bus system that actually works.

    Y'never know if you're in Paradise until you're floating in Hell, apparently.

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    1. I've been floating in Hell long enough. Paradise plox. I hope you get back to Bellingham, if only so your name can be accurate.

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  2. Yeah, I don't really know about the Black March thing... it's going to be hard xD

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    1. It's doable though, so I say go for it.

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  3. You don't want to end up like me and wondering what happened and not caring anymore!

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    1. Meh sometimes I wish I didn't care so much.

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  4. The easy part is joining the gym. The hard part is actually going! I wish I was one of those people that woke up at the crack of dawn and worked out before work. Then went to the gym on the way home. Joined a pilates class. Drank glucose water...

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    1. Haha I know I will never be one of those people. The crack of dawn is when I want to go to bed, not wake up.

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  5. Just go and do it! HURRAH MARK!

    Oddly, I always wanted to try shipbuilding. Especially a sailing yacht.

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    1. I need to learn to swim before I learn to sail, but I think that would be kind of cool. I don't think I'd get into the building side of things though.

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  6. hey there's actually a lot of other ways to lose weight than joining gym..gym is expensive and there's tendency for u to gain weight again..do it naturally like exercise,walking in the park..this way u can lose weight in a fun way:) All da best for all ur wishes..I hope to join tae kwon do someday too but my mom thinks I'll lose my femininity that way ==''..and travelling is something I love to do :)

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  7. I would suggest starting off with the martial arts classes. In fact, do them as quickly as possible. One of the reason so many parents send their kids to them is because it helps the kids build confidence in themselves. This is completely true for adults as well (in this case, I'm actually speaking from my own experience with them)

    After that, you'll find being able to do all the other things on your list a lot easier to manage. You'll even start adding on other more adventurous things!

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    1. When I was a kid I was in a Tae Kwon Do class and it did give me some confidence, mostly because I was better than I thought I would be, and it was something I was kind of good at. Except for blocking. I always dodged instead of blocked, never stopped pissing my teacher off.

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  8. Maybe get a fitness DVD. I did that in college when I could't afford a gym.

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    1. I have a few exercise videos on Youtube but I barely do them. I mostly stick to my bike.

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  9. 31 days! till WRESTLEMANIA!!!! IAAAA!!!!! lol you seriously watch that shit? thats funny. i love you.

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    1. I do seriously watch that stuff yeah.

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  10. archery is always necessary to hunt in the supermarket

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    1. Some bitch goes after something I want she's getting an arrow to the knee.

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  11. Day 1. Black March. Aaaaaaaaaaaahhhhh!! Damn, this is hard. lol

    You could always try a fitness video. Or simply running every morning. Drink lots of water. Control your appetite. Exercise......... Jeez! I'm so good at giving advice, but I don't follow them myself. Pathetic..

    I agree with the idea that one should not just wish, but to act. A vision without action is only a wish.. you have to act on it to come true. Kodus to you, Mark.

    And I hope everything will look better for you, Mark..

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    1. Hehe it's going to be tough for me too and I talk a little about it tomorrow. I'm not good with the outdoors so I'll stick to what I have :P I follow a nice diet and I work out three times a week, I'm doing everything right, as far as I know. More correctly than I've ever done them before at least. I hope things go well for me too.

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  12. Archery, YES. Falconry, YES. Free-running. YES.
    Best goals ever man, we should try to complete those together if we somehow can.

    Also, as for bodily health, running/jogging a few blocks every morning is a good start, and doesn't cost you anything.

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    1. It costs me my soul :P I think we could track our progress with some goals at the same time together, that wouldn't be so difficult. It would also help to have someone else to keep us in check and make sure we're going for them.

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  13. if you are dieting correctly, you should lose 1 or 2 pounds a week

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    1. A diet isn't much without exercise though. I do both. Hopefully well.

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  14. I understand where the people who say "just do it" are coming from... But, there are times when someone is truly not ready to do something. It may seem like they are holding back, but sometimes discretion is truly the better part of valor.

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    1. There are times when you just aren't ready to do something. There's a difference between not doing something, and not being able to do it. Though of course you never really know unless you try.

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  15. I had never heard of falconry or parkour, so I just looked them up. Fascinating. I have confidence that you will achieve them.

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    1. You've now inspired me to find some way to combine the two. Thank you.

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  16. What a cool list of goals. I'm with you that you can't keep wishing, you've just got to do it.

    I wanted to do muay thai, so about 3 years ago I took a trip to Thailand, stayed with a host family, and spent some time learning muay thai from a major-general of the thai army (the father of the host family was a captain in the thai army). I know, it probably sounds made up, but I have pictures. It was such an amazing experience, and I still keep up with muay thai today.

    Don't let anything stop you.

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    1. That is actually incredibly cool you did that. Wish I had that kind of courage. Well done for keeping at it too.

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  17. You are young and white, you can do almost everything you want.

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  18. Think positive :D You really need to learn to believe in yourself. I'm not the most confident person either but I know what I am capable of.
    It doesn't have to be like this (depressing, sad, dark) all the time.
    Oh and I know this sounds rich coming from me but relax you're only 21, just have fun. Work on whatever needs to be worked out in your life ans then you can deal with the future later :D (That's what my daddy told me :P)

    Tay
    x

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    1. Don't worry about the future sooner or later it's the past. It's what my Demigod, Meatloaf, taught me.

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  19. I'm trying, one day at a time. And hoping for more success. :P

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    1. Well that's always a good start :)

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  20. Don't join a gym. You ain't gonna go and you'll just have wasted your money.
    Or you'll go in there and see people who are in shape and you'll feel like everyone is looking at you and then you'll never go back.

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    1. Haha that's why I'm not likely to join gym any time soon.

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  21. I know what it's like to just imagine a better future for yourself. I'm stuck in that boat imagining myself in a better job right now...but not doing enough to make it happen. Thats what Im trying to work on.

    As for losing weight...really man, gyms are overrated. You can get in shape at home. Thats what I do. Free of expensive fees and judgmental eyes.

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    1. I have an exercise bike at home but without a bedroom door I'm not as free from judgmental eyes as I'd like to be. Though no one here is judging me of course. Except perhaps the cat who likes to sit on the bike.

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  22. I tried Archery, it's so much harder then you think!! Robin hood tricked me into thinking it was super easy.

    Horse riding is bloody scary (i think).

    Good look at attaining your goals :D

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    1. Horse riding seems kind of scary to me too right now, but I'll get there :) I've never really tried archery properly but I was at Sherwood forest not too long ago and a guy playing Robin Hood let me pull his bow back, but said I wasn't to let go.

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  23. Your doing it backwards. The activites are what will make you have more confedence and lose weight (and focus your mind).

    Go learn archery get use to people being around you, accept the fact that for now you are a fatty (so am I, people are fat, thats life, a life of eating to much and not doing enough!) go on walks, get out there! Go on internet dating sites and meet up with girls! As you do those things you'll build your confedence and start to build your way to harder taskes!

    Good luck!

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    1. Aye nearly all of the things I want to do are linked, and will ultimately lead to eachother, but if I feel I'm not ready, then I'm not ready. I am however slowly integrating myself back into the world.

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    2. Listen to this guy, he knows what he's talking about. :)

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  24. I will be in the UK soon enough. We can be running buddies!

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    1. Haha that could be kind of cool and it's almost guaranteed no one will look at you, they'll be too busy looking at me.

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  25. Start doing workouts at home.

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    1. Been doing that for a while now.

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  26. I definitely think you should start going to a gym, if you get the funds for it of course. One of the best things about going to the gym for me is to see other people who have decided to take more care of their body, it's inspiring. Everyone started at zero, whether you're overweight or really thin.

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    1. I don't think it would inspire me much really. The main advantages of a gym are different machines for variety and maybe a personal trainer who can keep you motivated and make sure you do enough.

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  27. Mark. Listen to me. You can do it.

    I mean, since I'm headed to university and whatnot I've been trying to re-adjust my habits, you know, get rid of the bad ones and try forming some good ones.

    I mean, if you want it to happen, make it happen. You are capable of anything that you attempt.

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    1. Bad habits are the most fun ones :P I can do anything I set my mind to, and I am approaching this with the most will I think I've ever approached anything.

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  28. Hi Mark. I think your list of goals is awesome. And attainable. Good for you and I hope you reach each one. My late husband was very much into archery and got so good that he entered competitions. It's a good, fun sport. I really hope you can get to do some of these. Great post. I promise I won't try to go after anything you want in the supermarket either...my knees are already bad. haha

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    1. Hehe thanks. I'll reach as many as I can but I'm prepared to accept I can't do everything I want to do.

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  29. Yeah, there are problems that can be anywhere from problematic to downright dangerous to blog about. I mostly try (not always successfully) to avoid discussing how much I dislike my job on my own blog. Just in case someone from work actually looked at my blog.

    What I've found with my own difficult to reach goals is that as long as I cut them into tiny bite-sized pieces, they become more manageable. For instance, if you're having trouble with fitness, I am right there with you. I have a bad ankle and walking has inherent dangers. Running is out of the question. But not exercising will eventually make things worse because of weight gain, so I'm back to walking every day - even if it's just down the street to our idiotic block-mailboxes. Every day. Just like writing. I tend not to do it on bad weather days, but I'll try to work up to that and justify it by reminding myself my characters need to be able to tell me how it feels to walk in sleet, etc. ;D You can justify quite a lot in the name of writing and it feels nice and productive, then! :D Good luck with your goals. I admire and am just a touch envious of anyone who can do parkour.

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    1. Well good luck to you with that too :) It's even tougher when you have something preventing you like an ankle, but it also makes it better to know you're fighting through that and not letting it stop you.

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  30. it took me several tries to build up the confidence to go to the gym everyday. i was so self conscious, certain that everyone was staring at me and judging me. eventually i found my niche by going in the late night hours, and just getting on with it. once i got going, though, i found myself a bit more confident everyday, and i began to feel like maybe i belong there too.

    any kind of physical activity will help boost your confidence, methinks, like just getting out for a walk everyday. you're worth it :)

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    1. I think that may be one of the only ways I go to the gym lol. Just physical activity can boost your confidence to know you can do it. Sometimes how quickly I get worn out can depress me, so when I don't get worn out so easy I'm going to be like "Hey, I'm improving, awesome."

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  31. Yep. BLACK MARCH, WE COMIN' FOR YOU, NIGGA!

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  32. I am debating starting painting again. I've got money, but too much to do and not enough time to do it. Thanks, work.

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    1. I think painting is something that would be good for that really, sometimes you have to let the paint dry before doing more. So I would say it depends on the painting.

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  33. Goals are great to have. I'm a bit lacking on the organizational part of completing goals, myself.

    I know all about the blogless types of problems. I have many draft posts that I ended up thinking to myself "Why are you putting this here?".

    Hope you have a great rest of the day/night, Mark.

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    1. I need better rest patterns that's for sure or I won't be able to keep anything up for too long. Which will reset me back to zero. Goals are good to have, but only really if you're going to stick to them. I don't have a set time to complete them by so I guess I'm not that organized with them either.

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  34. Maybe you could get a 360+kinect and one of those fitness games. I've seen some of them streamed and they look fun.

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    1. Couldn't afford a kinect even if I wanted one, for now I have my brother's Wii. That's enough from that department.

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  35. You are young still, and you will get a chance to do these things.
    My boys are into archery. Our local club had a low cost introductory course where they used club equipment while they learned the basics and decided if they enjoyed it. Then we bought my son a 2nd hand bow to use while he was still learning.
    All it took was a few phone calls to find out what the local clubs could offer

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