Tuesday, 28 February 2012

Putting On The Brakes

Here we are again my friends, it's time for another look at what happened in my driving lesson (next one is tomorrow btw). To be honest I felt like I was traumatized or just seriously shocked after it. Shocked in the sense of being in shock/going into shock/whatever. I didn't hit anything don't worry, but boy do I seriously bloody suck at this.

I know it's only been three lessons and everyone learns things at different paces, and some people can never learn to drive anyway (good lord I hope I'm not one of them) and everything but it really does feel like I make way to many mistakes. Like I should be better than I am. The biggest mistake I made was asking my instructor if I should be better, and how I'm doing. He said I'm improving and I should just focus on that. Then proceeded to rip me apart on what I'm doing wrong. Though to be fair I did ask for his criticism and I'm overdoing just what he said. It wasn't that bad. My biggest problem is by far braking and clutch control. I knew I would suck with a manual, which is part of the reason I suck with a manual. I went in not thinking I could do it. I had already convinced myself I couldn't. I can tap the accelatrix just fine and move at a slow and steady pace (though sometimes I screw up there too and shoot off a little too fast, which causes me to shit myself, which is part of the reason I went into shock, which is going to cause Henry to correct me about going/being in shock) but I can't lightly tap the brakes. He said I'm naturally heavy footed, so even if I tap it the sensitivity is going to still be there and the car is still going to jerk. Fair enough I am a heavy set guy with big feet (size ten reporting in) but I've seen people much bigger than me drive just fine. It's just something I'm going to have to learn to adjust for I guess. He said it could take like ten lessons for me to get good at braking. Feck my fecking life.

I'm also messing up with the clutch though. I'm not pressing it in all the way when I have to. I'm not reading the road properly either.

I suppose at least I always check my mirrors, and I can change gears without looking at the gear stick. Except for when I almost started the car in third because you have to move it to the left before pushing up for first.

I have three problems I'm going to overcome, but the thing is these are mostly mental, mostly psychological, I can't fix my problems just by driving more.

1. I went in thinking I was going to suck. As much as I can say I also thought "I got this" the fact remains I went in with a negative attitude too.

2. I still haven't gotten over my fear of crashing. I joke all the time I'm going to hit something, and I am genuinely worried I will. This is the thing I really have to get over.

3. I get no practice. I haven't been going long enough for my dad to let me use his car. The most I can do with him is drive up and down, and I don't really want to inconvenience him like that. There's no reason he should have to sit in a car with me while I attempt to move it just because I'm failing.

I'm just not really used to not getting things. There are plenty of things I never got, like the guitar, or my brief stint with programming or photoshop. But with them I never really put in the effort. I never really tried. I'm trying here, I'm trying and I'm failing and it's being a mental shock as well as a physical one. This is something I really want, and I'm putting effort in, I'm trying to be better but it's just not going how I want.

Though I never expected to be a driving God after three lessons.

I'll get there. I'm almost sure of it.

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    1. Even if I could afford one there's no room for one.

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  2. hahaha! wow. well, I hope you'll do well in the coming days =)

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    1. Me too, next one is tomorrow, let's make it work this time.

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  3. Don't stress too much about it, it'll happen. I took driving lessons for a year and would get so so stressed out about it, in the end I quit because I didn't feel like I was getting anywhere even though I was perfect on my manoeuvres and my only real problem was a massive fear of killing people haha

    Also, after 3 lessons you're not meant to be perfect. Five minutes into my first lesson my instructor shouted at me about not being good with the clutch. I cried, and my driving confidence just bombed after that lol. (my first time driving, how was I meant to know what to do with a bloody clutch??)

    I still don't drive but have gone out on a few lessons since that terrible year and realised that I actually know what I'm doing.. it's just a confidence issue. Try not to worry so much and it will come alot easier xx

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    1. Hehe the only problem with the clutch I have is not putting it all the way in. I'm not so bad at the biting point thing, but I am bad at using it as a kind of brake when you're on a straight road. It cuts the engine if you put it all the way in so you can roll to a stop. My instructor tries to drill that in to me but no luck.

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    2. Ah, if you can find the biting point then the rest will fall into place soon :)

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  4. few things to remember that might help :

    - there is no such thing as a good driver,, you either can or you cant.

    - fear of crashing into things is a good thing, as long as you can control the panic, thats what lessons are for. ( i been driving 30 years with the same fear. i have never had an accident.)


    - seems to me you are doing really well.

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    1. I know fear keeps you safe but there's a point where you're just too afraid to do anything.

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  5. At least you're trying, I still can't drive and don't even try any more...

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    1. Aye, let it never be said I gave up.

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  6. "I still haven't gotten over my fear of crashing. I joke all the time I'm going to hit something, and I am genuinely worried I will.." - Hah! Ditto!

    I had problems with the clutch, too. Still, I prefer driving manual rather than the car with automatic transmission. Though I know how to drive, I'm too paranoid to do so. And I really gotta learn to have confidence especially in my driving, if I want to have the Batmobile, parked in my driveway. LOL..

    Anyway, a few lessons more.. you'll be driving like a pro. Good luck! :D

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    1. Thanks, I'm going to need it. I think you should be more confident, if you've never crashed that is :P Even if you have then just keep at it, and soon the confidence will come.

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  7. Nice blog post Thanks for sharing this information which is useful for all.

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  8. I joke about how when I start driving I'm gonna drive really fast and be really brash, but secretly I know that I will never enjoy it because I'll be too afraid of crashing.

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    1. I have no real plans to go so very fast yet :)

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  9. I was very afraid as well back then. Let me tell you a secret, try to drive alone in the car, let your instructor or someone accompany you from another ride. Don't fight the fear man, embrace it, know that you're afraid and know that it's not gonna ruin your entire life.

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    1. Well right now I can't legally drive by myself, but if you mean pretend that no one else is in the car then it's good advice really.

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  10. I know how you feel. I dreamt that I crashed every single thing one night before my actual driving test. It was that bad.

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    1. Damn I hope that doesn't happen to me.

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  11. In my humble opinion, you're slightly overthinking this driving thing. All you have to do is focus on one movement at time. Not the droning voice of your instructor. Anybody can talk a mile a minute and not learn anything.

    Lessons are fine, but what you need is unrestricted driving time. My uncle took me for a driving lesson for a full day and BAM! Driving down in a week.

    Less thinking, more driving. And I agree with the person who said you might consider doing it alone (LOL THAT'S WHAT SHE SAID).

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    1. Don't worry I overthink everything. Ask anyone. Like I said legally I can't drive a car on my own, and I don't think my dad is confident enough in me to let me drive him around where my instructor does.

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  12. Don't worry beee happy. You're being too hard on yourself I don't know how many times I'm going to have to retake my test.. Just relax.
    You're lucky you aren't doing programming anymore I'm busy learning how to convert to Binary decimals - it's nonsense I'm too lazy for this.

    Goooooood luuuuuuuck :D

    Tay
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    1. I can never and will never truly relax. I don't think I ever really tried programming. I tried a bit of self teaching at one point but I wasn't really into it.

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  13. hahahah funny you posted this, as I, just today passed my driving test with no mistakes :)
    took me 3 attempts to get it right

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  14. I wish they would teach you first on an automatic. With a manual there is just too much going on at once. I'm a country kid and we had a huge advantage in that we had to drive farm equipment at an early age. We also drove trucks well before the legal age of driving and it was no big deal with the coppers because it was part of helping out with farm work. I had so much fun tearing around back country roads in my car and I wish you could have the same experience.

    Have you considered buying a scooter to get around on? They're cheap, easy to ride and use little petrol. It would give you the freedom you need to go out and do things that you may not have right now.

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    1. I've considered it, my brother got his bike license after getting his driving one, and I figure I might do the same, but I'm afraid of coming off of one of those things. Even a scooter. I'd like to be able to ride a bike one day though, like most people I have dreams of riding down a dusty American highway on a Harley.

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  15. You can actually MOVE YOUR CAR after three lessons dude. That's hell of an achievement in my eyes. Good job!

    But yeah, I feel you. My exact fears, too. Hence why I haven't even started thinking about taking lessons yet.

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    1. I could move the car before I started my lessons >_> Don't worry too much about it, just go for it.

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  16. Thats how it always is. Trying is hard. Learning is hard! You should have followed through with the other things and then you'd be better at knowing how much effort goes in to succeeding!
    Good luck with your driving... one day you will be great at it... one day...

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    1. I know it takes effort to do things, some things I never put the effort in, and sometimes I did. This is something I am putting effort in to.

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  17. You seriously need to calm down. Driving is easy. Hell, i've played DDR games that's harder than driving

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  18. hey don't worry, you'll get the handg of everything evetunally! I'm also TERRIFIED of crashing or worse, killing somebody because of my terrible driving but I try not to think of that :P

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    1. Hey keep it up you'll get there :) I will get there too.


      Eventually.

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  19. If you're afraid of crashing, try driving a bike or something around, which I think should be allowed to ride without a licence. It's just to gain some road sense, and get your head around that mental attitude of yours. I'm doing this, as my time to apply for my learner's licence is not that close (about 11 months now), and then the only problem I'd have is how to brake and accelerate properly, for which I'd go back to my cousin's place, lol.

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    1. Well a pushbike is nice and legal, but I'd need at least a provisional license to drive a scooter.

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  20. ...I don't understand gear sticks...

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  21. I remember when i first started driving. I constantly stalled due to my crappy gear changes.

    Got used to it within a few lessons though and faced the parking fiasco...

    Enjoy your lessons. its the one time you can do the most random things on the road and get away with it.

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    1. Well so far the random things I do is making my driving instructor feel sick by braking hard.

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  22. I had a hard time on my first lessons too but as soon as I realized there's no need to rush anything it went much better. Just think stuff through before you do them and don't start shifting gears before you know where to go next and I'm sure it'll be easier.

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    1. I need to just relax yeah. When I start doing it properly it's going to come naturally to me as I get going.

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  23. So, when I was in driving school and literally out on the road for my first time with a manual transmission, I sort of stalled out on a hill, right in front of an elementary school. The schoolyard was full of children, whom I promptly scared the shit out of when I dropped the clutch and accidentally did a massive burnout. In a freaking Honda. Le sigh

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    1. I think once I got over doing that, I'd look back and laugh. If I ever got over it.

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  24. That's the attitude to have, just keep thinking that you'll be awesome, but never over do it.

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    1. I'm trying to keep a positive attitude and taking what went wrong into making it right.

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  25. It's all a confidence game. If you think you can do it, you can

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  26. I am the same with manual transmissions. One time on a job that I was licensed for manual, my boss told me to back up the 4 pack. I jumped on it, but stalled out over 29 times! I refused to accept defeat and had a co-worker coax me into letting him do it. I still have trouble, even after he ended up tutoring me in his souped up truck.

    Don't worry about feckin' wreckin' man. The more you stress, the more you miss. Calm heads prevail in the driver seat. I know you'll do great.

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  27. I think havig fears can be healthy and beneficial. It will keep you driving defensively, which will be necessary to avoid accidents. I used to be terrified of getting into a car accident. When I lost my fear, wouldn't you know, I hit a car from behind.

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    1. I've had cars behind me but I'm thankfully yet to be behind one. Well unless you count parked ones. Fear can be good, but only to an extent. You can't be too afraid.

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  28. All it takes is practice, m'man! Hell, it's like you've already stated - it's only been three sessions, and you've gotten this far!

    Anyone worth their salt knows it's all about the hard work, the training, and the practice. Ya gotta grind like ya love it, and when it hurts the most you GRIND SOME MORE!!!!

    The payoff is ALWAYS the best part of it all.

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    1. Aye it's mostly practice I lack. I'm going to keep going of course, I consider the pay off very worth it.

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  29. Never give up, never surrender! If this is your first time making an effort and failing then just consider it a learning experience. That happens a lot in life.

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    1. I have most definitely tried and failed, but yes at least I tried. I gave it my all. I'm still yet to fail here though, I'm still going for it.

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  30. There is no try. Do or do not. I know you can do it.

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    1. Sorry but I don't believe in there being no such thing as trying. To fail is not the same as not trying. Though you should go into something telling yourself "I'm going to do this" or "I'm not going to do this" and not "Well I'm going to try".

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  31. oh tel me abt it.. learnin is hard .. but never giving up is wwat matters d most :)

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    1. I'm not one for giving up, if anything I can try too hard sometimes.

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  32. I know you'll get it. You're just letting it scare you. Luckily I grew up on a farm so I'd been driving for years before I got old enough to get my license.

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    1. Haha sadly we don't all get that upbringing.

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  33. I gotta learn how to drive eventually...

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  34. You'll get it, it's just a matter of practice and experience.

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  35. Just keep trying sweet. You will get there and I would have sucked after only 3 lessons too.
    It takes time, especially in a manual.

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  36. Pretty sure I'm just re-iterating what everyones saying above, but you WILL get there! Your not expected to be getting everything at the third lesson. focus on what aspects of driving your good at and remember them before a lesson. I stalled in every driving lesson for my first 15 or so lessons!! trust me everything just clicks at some point, you'll be fine, just persevere :D

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  37. I think you need to focus more on the positive. Like in American baseball, sometimes the manager or the catcher will go to the mound to meet with the pitcher, and it is kind of an unwritten rule to never say anything negavtive that will plant a negative thought in the pitcher's mind. For example the catcher should never say something like, "Whatever you do, don't hang a curve ball...he will knock it out of the park"...but instead he should say something like "Keep the ball low..get him to ground into a double play." So, personally I wouldn't ever mention anything about crashing...but I guess I just mentioned it, so I am not really helping much..oops.

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