Tuesday, 27 December 2011

Out Of The Closet And Into The Fire

Since Jessie recently told her coming out story at her blog (that's http://theconstantinopleexpress.blogspot.com/ yes, I will plug that at pretty much every opportunity I can get, what can I say, I'm her bitch) I thought today I might share mine. Which was a lot simpler, and taken a lot better than hers. Like a lot better. But I'll let you read hers.

It was a few years ago and I was on holiday, it was the first day there so everyone was there. Normally when I go on holiday it's me, my dad, my brother, two of my nieces, one of my sisters, her boyfriend at the time, and the rest of her kids. Sister gets her own caravan though don't worry, we don't try and shove everyone in the same caravan. But today my mum had to bring down some people and so she decided to stay for a day trip.

My mum and my sister and some others were inside the caravan chatting, and somehow I think the subject of sexuality came up. I told you before, I have a very bad memory. I can't even really remember how me and Jessie met (again, another story up on her blog) and I always feel bad about that. So anyways, my sister asks me outright if I'm gay, or jokes that I am. I say to her "No actually, I'm bi" just in passing, incredibly nonchalantly.

There is a bit of silence, then she asks if I'm actually bi and I say I am. After that it just kind of got out. I had very understanding parents really. Plus I think being bi is slightly better (in coming out terms at least) than being gay. I'm basically saying "Hey I'd go for a guy too, but there's still a chance I could end up with a woman". I'm not totally sure how my parents would act though should I bring a boy home, but I know my sister would be cool. I'm not just saying that because she reads here occasionally, she is actually pretty cool. She's totally accepting of Jessie already too.

I also find it odd how I could come out to being bi so simply but I'm still not about to ever tell anyone I like a kids show in MLP. Then again I suppose if sis reads this I just technically did. BTW I know I've dropped that name a few times in the last few days, but at I'm not obsessing over it and I barely mention it, I just happen to have done so a little bit lately. It's always in context though. Always related.

You see I can say things in passing quite easy, but I'm not very good at all at actually saying them. I would never be able to say to my parents, or anyone for that matter "Hey, can I talk to you about something?". There is another story related to that which I might get onto some other time actually.

26 comments:

  1. Deh, I should get round and watch MLP, too. Haven't found that much time for it though. :C

    On a more related note, very brave of you to come out just like that! Don't think I would've dared to do so myself.

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  2. I'm so straight that i have no problem making out with dudes

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  3. @Fang You watch it too? I don't think it was that brave of me lol. Like I said I can't talk about it stuff. I just mentioned it in passing because I don't think before I speak. I could never have sat my parents down and done it properly.

    @Michael Westside That my friend, that was awesome.

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  4. Love this post and love that you came out, even if you aren't totally satisfied with it.

    These things never have a tendency to work out exactly as you want them to, you know? But you could say the same things about life in general.

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  5. yeah that would be a tough circumstance, but thats good that you have understanding parents! plus you can potentially give them a grandchild, right? lol jk

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  6. LOL you are my bitch, I'm Morris Day, you Jerome bitch don't forget that!
    I actually didn't know that story, cool :)I would never dare tell people I watch MLP.....

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  7. @B No I'm quite satisfied that I'm out. I was just pondering how I can't be all that emotional but I'm happy to say something in passing.

    @Kid Shuffle Well that's another matter lol. My sister wonders if I'll ever give her any nephews but that's because I think she expects me to die a virgin. My parents have enough grandchildren now to last them.

    @So there are things you don't know about me? Cool. You might be Morris Day to my Jerome but I'm Phil Collins to your Genesis. You can tell people you watch MLP. You're almost the audience they were going for.

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  8. That's a nice story. Simple and sweet and accepting! I'm like you in that I could never sit someone down for a planned, serious talk, but if something comes up, it comes up!

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  9. But Genesis was better than Phill Collins' solo stuff O_O just listen to "The Lamb Lies Down On Broadway" or basically anything they did, they were a major influence on Dream Theatre... And pretty much every prog band out there :P his solo stuff was good but he never reached the artistic heights of an "Abacab" or a "Duke" ever again.
    And I have never been so insulted *glove slap* pistols at dawn, pistols at dawn I SAY!

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  10. Nice story :) And happy holidays

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  11. @One Thanks :) Sometimes if things come up I can try to avoid them sometimes though. But there really isn't much avoiding this kind of stuff :P

    @Jessie So you're basically saying I was still admitting I wasn't better than you. You are almost the audience they were going for though, you're female.

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  12. Hey, to each his own I say. As long as you're happy is what matters. Hopefully your family will accept you no matter what your choices are. Great post.

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  13. @Barb My family are pretty accepting, they're a cool bunch.

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  14. My parents would have killed me with fire and magnets. :/

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  15. @My 2 Pesos Magnets, how do they work? It's kinda a shame if your parents are like that.

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  16. I'm glad it wasn't traumatic. :)

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  17. @Heaven Yeah there's plenty of other things to cause trauma with.

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  18. Seeing as women have been causing me nothing but grief lately, I should go for some dudes. I mean, I can't get over the penis factor, but hey, that can't last forever. All cheek aside (lol, butts) takes some cahones (lol, balls) to just go ahead and say that, even in passing. You're throwing everything out in the open and hoping it doesn't come back and bite you in the ass (lol, butts again). I'm glad your family is cool with it. I know a few people who weren't as lucky with their self-outing. A friend of mine has not spoken to his dad in about 10 years because of it.

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  19. There's no problem about it. Just enjoy of who you are.

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  20. Thinking about you bringing a boy home and being British made me think of this. Hope you find it amusing.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f-II284PnJo

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  21. You shouldn't feel bad you don't like talking to people about being bi. Its weird that in sociaty people still have to deal with negative reactions and telling people that their desires are not "normal".

    I never had to tell my parents "I'm straight and love thinking about women"! And if I was suppose to tell them or forced to answer questions about it to them I'm sure it would be awkward!

    I have never in my live said: "Mom Dad I love having sex with woman! I love boobies!"

    So to me it seems odd that bi/gay/and transgenders do!

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  22. @Generally Disgruntled Jessie's didn't go all that well either. Actually every girl I've ever gone out with has cheated on me, so I think I need to give men another shot lol. You'll get over the penis thing eventually. I'm glad it went so well too really.

    @Marco Walter nothing wrong with being gay or bi nah, or trans or whatever you are, but that doesn't stop your parents thinking there is.

    @Shaw I don't watch much Harry Enfield but that was hilarious, good find sir!

    @Bersercules Me and Jessie actually had a little chat about it. I think with some kids you just know so even if they don't tell you or anything, you aren't surprised. But I think even in this age of accepting everyone no matter what, gays and bis will never be truly accepted by everyone. If I have a kid they will have to come out as straight to me though lol, I'll be thoroughly disappointed in them about it too.

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  23. Ohhh I didn't know you were bi! It's so lovely your family are so accepting. My bestie recently came out as a gay (none of us had any clue! We thought she was joking when she told us >_<!) and she was terrified of doing it! Which is nuts! We joke about it now though hehe xx

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  24. I agree with Bersecules, I don't understand why gay/bi people have to "come out" as straight people don't.

    I'm glad your family were so understanding, many families aren't.

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  25. @Tilly Good, the world needs more gays. Lot's more. I'm glad she was able to come out and everything was fine :)

    @Hazel I'd love to see it happen too, like I said if I had kids they would have to come out as straight too. The first time they bring home a member of the opposite sex I will kick off lol. There are a lot of families that aren't, so it is always nice when there is one that is.

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