The other day (I'm using "the other day" in the sense Ed Byrne does. It could be any time between yesterday, and the end of time) I was called masculine by Jessie. Now, she knows me better than I know myself, she really does, but I've never considered myself all that masculine. Really, what IS masculine? What defines a man? Defining a man is a lot safer than defining a woman, which gets you called sexist, but that's a matter I've already covered.
Here are some things that really "define a man";
A lack of emotion or an unwillingness to show it; Okay I'll admit I have this. I only cry unless I'm seriously pushed, or very upset. I don't talk about my feelings at all, but I don't talk about much out loud. The main way Jessie knows so much about me is that we talk online a lot. I'm willing to write a lot more than I'm willing to say. I've been fairly open in this blog but I'd be nowhere near like this IRL. Is this masculine though? I don't see it that much. I see it more as a fear of ridicule or being hurt. Fair enough, the main reason guys never share their feelings IS a fear of ridicule, but I never hang out with guys anyway. I have nothing to fear from a load of guys calling me a woman.
Glorifying of violence/aggression; I can kind of do this, but only in games and movies. I want to be able to fight myself sure, but only for protection, it's not like I'm going to go round punching people. Though I've said before that "I don't start fights because I know I'll never win." I do try to use words to sort things out when I can. Again, not totally masculine there.
Loving sports; Nope. Hate 'em. Though I am willing to watch football to spend time with my brother. Though that IS masculine. Pretending to like sports. Women make eachother suffer emotionally by destroying them, we make other guys pretend to like sports.
Bravery/courage; Well, I have it deep down. There is nothing I will not do for someone I care about if pushed. But to talk much more would be incredibly mushy. Suffice to say I do have bravery down there somewhere, and it could do with making some more appearances.
Lack of care about appearance/slobbish behaviour; Okay I have myself this. I shave maybe once every two months, but I barely grow facial hair either. I don't take much care of myself because I don't really have much pride in my appearance, I don't like too much how I look.
One thing you may or may not have noticed about me is that I do downplay my masculinity, and overhype my femininity. Hell I did it a lot in this post. This post is about doing that. I'm not really sure why I do, I just do. Maybe it is because I barely interact with guys. Maybe I am masculine, maybe not. I do know though that I'm pretty sure I'm not transgender. I know people who are and to say I am would feel like an insult to them, I know I'm not like them. I mean that in an as least offensive as possible way.
How about you guys? What do you think makes a man?