Saturday, 17 September 2011

Friendship Is Magic, But Not In A Pony Way

I was going to call this post "Friendship Is Magic" but then I realised that about two billion people would flock here expecting ponies. I don't mind the ponies, but I wasn't going to talk about them in this post, maybe another time. So I didn't want to disappoint anyone by having a pony related title but no ponies. After my recent posts about gaming, and anime, and such, I thought I would go back to something everyone can relate to. Friendship and the joys it can bring. Plus because I'm cynical, some of the evils too! Joy of joys.

I've mentioned before numerous times that when I was at school, I only had one true friend, that would be the wonderful Jesse who I've mentioned so many times that I really hope she doesn't read this actually and take out a restraining order on me. Though if she's not done it yet, she might never get round to doing it.

I had some "friends" at school. People I hung around with. But the main reason I did that was because I didn't want to be on my own. When I started going for walks during dinner time with Jesse these people were pretty much all forgotten about anyway. I would still sit with them at class and breaktime mind though. But not even hanging around with them at dinner, I guess it was pretty clear that I didn't really care much for them, plus they didn't care much for me either.

Like the time I actually had a mental breakdown at school. I pretty much slipped into a self induced coma. I didn't react, I think I barely blinked, all I did was follow simple instructions because my brain was just operating on that basic a level. All I did was get up, and move. I can't remember if I spoke, but I guess I must have at least once if they called my mum who came to pick me up. But where were my friends when this was happening? Nowhere. It was one of my friends sisters who actually tried to help me, I got on pretty well with her actually, that is until her brother said some awful, awful things about me. Things I won't even repeat here. But she was a nice girl, and I hope at least that she turns out okay, but from what I hear, she didn't.

These people even added me on facebook, but they never talk to eachother, or even read my status, not that I ever really update. Before Jesse added me, I said that I could leave a status saying I was going to kill myself, and no one would read it. I've been tempted to try it, but a family member might read it and not get the joke lol. If you're going to add someone on Facebook the least you could do is show half of an interest in them, but let's not go on about Facebook, that would quadruple the length of this post. God I hate Facebook.

Anyway, I suppose that's some of the negatives out the way, the evil of "friends", the fake people who keep you around to bolster their own ego, and the people who you let do it just to help keep the fragile one you have in at least 2 pieces. On to real friends, which means I get to talk about Jesse more. Cue the restraining order!

She is amazing, that's really the one word for it. She's always had my back, and always will. I'll always have hers too. On my 21st birthday she gave me pretty much a mountain of presents (I ain't kidding about how many there were), because she insisted that the 21st was special, even though in England it has no connotations, such as being able to drink. She cleared her room out recently of some things she didn't want, so I got 3 boxes of stuff lol. They were small boxes but they were packed. Now I have more comics, books and videos than I have room for. Plus there are more coming! We've helped eachother a lot along the journey known as life, but I believe she's helped me more than I've helped her, and she continues to help me, she gives me the pushes I need, and knows when not to push me too hard, or too far. I've let her down and angered her occasionally, but she forgives me, something I'll never forget.

Hell on Thursday we actually got seriously drunk, called in some pizza and burgers (the burgers were Godly, they had cheese, pepperoni and jalapenos on them, I even tweeted about them lol). We listened to Bat Out Of Hell 1,2, AND 3, one after the other, and sang to almost every song together. We followed that up with Nightmare Before Christmas. We're now 1000% more awesome, and not even getting married or having kids will compare. It was the first time I've seen that movie, and it was pretty damn good. She also had six, SIX marriage proposals. Though she was the one proposing lol. But everyone said yes, no one said yes to me though. Ah well. Including a June wedding on a mountain, and a gay guy. We're still not sure how the gay guy one is going to work. She had a lot of fun reading through her outbox this morning, she really didn't remember anything. I didn't really get drunk, but I had a lot of fun. Beer that's technically illegal because of its high percentage is FUN. This stuff was more alcoholic than Jack Daniels. It was also one of the first times I was seriously able to be there for her. She's had a rough couple of days (they're her problems so I won't go into it) and she really needed a break. She'd been looking forward to it all week, and then her dad says he can't bring her down. "Screw that" is what I said, and got my dad and brother to pick her up. They were headed that way anyway, but even if they weren't I would have insisted on it. It really felt nice to actually be there when someone needed me, normally I'm kicking myself for not being able to do it, but I did it. When the chips are down, I don't run. Unless I'm running away with the chips.

So, cherish the real friends you have! They be awesome.

Also I think I possibly covered this subject before. Eh, I say, eh.
Okay, you get one Pony. Fluttershy are adorable. Even I can't resist that level of cuteness , plus it's a reaction to Thursday in Pony form.

43 comments:

  1. True friendship really is priceless. I'm happy to hear that you have such a great friend.

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  2. Wow! Jesse seems to be a very nice girl =))

    anyway, add me on fb and surely you'll find me so annoying posting nonsense stuff on your page and please please please..don't hate fb! hahaha!

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  3. Aw. I know how terrible being with "friends" who don't even care about you can be.
    But life gets better after high school, you say? :D Guess I have at least that to look forward to.

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  4. Friends are really fucking awesome. Not having had any real good friend 'till two years back, I know how big a difference it can make. Went from shy-guy who was being bullied most of the time to someone with quite a bit of confidence.
    I love you guys. <3

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  5. @Mai Yang lol you get that add, but that only makes you the second person, Generally Disgruntled got their first.

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  6. @FangHehe that's great ^^ The only problem with me is that extra confidence and optimism disappears when she's not around :P I'm glad things picked up for you :)

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  7. what's your fb so I can add you? :D

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  8. @Mai Yang I already added you using that nifty little facebook thing you have on your blog. Or should have done. I hope I haven't added some random person -_-

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  9. I'm glad to hear that you enjoy MLP too (season 2 in a day?!). The previous sentence was a deduction; don't be offended if it's wrong.

    With regard to friendship, there is great value in it, which always comes with not only great benefits, but great responsibilities. And it is the latter "detriment" that effectively repels me from socializing with any outside of my realm; my bubble, if you will. That is, of course, due in part to introversion and the satisfaction of an internal confidant - one's own mind. However, absolute independence is not viable. And Friendship is Magic (though I cannot handle an overdose of it).

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  10. As Mai Yang said, fb is cool. I've quitted it for a year and just came back. I just realized the cool value of facebook. :D

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  11. I have no friends, only acquaintances.

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  12. @George Anderson Much to the disdain of Jesse yes I like MLP. The new season is close but it starts with a 2 parter so I won't get to enjoy it until both parts are out. I'd rather wait 2 weeks to watch two episodes than wait 1 week to watch a part 2. I'm quite an introspective person myself, and there are things about me even Jesse doesn't know, but I just have a natural yearning to be around people. Still, I can surround myself with people and still be lonely.

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  13. @Linux and Life Facebook is the tool of the devil. Specifically, his toilet paper.

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  14. Meh, I got no hate for FB. As a concert promoter, it serves it purposes for me...plus its either that or twitter. I can't use twitter for the life of me.


    Anywho, its good to see you're always the reliable one for your friends. Its always good to be that guy!

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  15. I kinda envy you a little there. I don't really have any real friends, only pals I know on the internet so it gets pretty lonely when I'm not online with the rest of you.

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  16. Don't take this the wrong way, but you two sound like Forrest Gump and Jenny. You look like a disfunctional yet very sweet couple although you aren't a couple but could very well be. You get the point.
    Take care of that friendship, you have a very nice thing going there.

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  17. @Lord Phrozen Me and Jesse don't get to meet up as much as I wish we could, so I get my own moments of serious FOREVER ALONE

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  18. @Hasidic Plumber Nah I won't take it the wrong way ^^ Lots of people think we are a couple sometimes, but she's gay so it can never be lol. All I have is my shrine.

    I do my best to take care of it, means a whole lot to me.

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  19. happy to hear you have such a good friend

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  20. Lovely post. Glad that you could find someone you could honestly call "friend". That appears to be a rarity in this day and age.

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  21. Aww makes me want to actually make some phone calls to some old friends

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  22. I, too, know the joys of friendship.

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  23. I 'dislike' facebook, but I keep it as it is a good way to stay in touch and also because I love taking the piss out of certain people - they make funny fodder for my blog.

    I think when it comes to friends it's a bit like blog content (as discussed y'day) quality is better then quantity. One true friend is worth more then 100 fake ones.

    But that's another thing I don't like about fb, all the people who you vaguely know - or you know they don't really like you but they want to add you anyway.
    I like to leave them in 'pending' for a couple of weeks then block them.

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  24. @dirtycowgirl My pending list is pretty big now lol. I wouldn't trade any number of people for my one Jesse. Guess I proved that by ditching about 10 people just to hang out with her for about an hour a day lol. She also has that complaint with facebook, it's why her friends list is so short. She hates it when people don't show any kind of interest in the people on their page, especially the people who have about 900 friends or more because they grew a pair of tits or have good abs. Notice I said boys do it as well as girls so you can't complain.

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  25. you guys sound like soul mates.

    I hate facebook too. One time I posted a message that I was drinking beer outside of walmart and pissed my pants and got arrested. Not one single comment.

    I think people are too busy these days to respond to everyones message especially since most people have like 500 friends.

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  26. She really sounds like a nice girl and a good friend.

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  27. There is a third Bat Out of Hell album!!!! Sweet! Thanks for informing me!

    In your profile on your blog you keep your age vauge, and for a while now I have been trying to figure out your age. Now I have it! Based one many things you've said and how you precive life you are 17 years old! (I know you talk of having your 21st birthday in this post but I think its a trick!)

    Also with the facebook thing, maybe cause I'm from a different generation (being 29) but I have friends on facebook as a way to easily contact friends if I want to hang out with them not to read what thoughts they have on there lattest bowelmovement or their breakfast!
    And when I was a kid we didn't have facebook if you wanted attention for your suicidal thoughts you couldn't just post about killing yourself on facebook you actually had to try and kill yourself!

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  28. Short facebook anecdote: a classmate added me. She made a generic status update, and i posted a witty comment because i'm a smartass. She then proceeded to write a lengthy post about how she did not ask for opinion and who I was anyways.
    Imagine my astonishment.

    But yeah, I'm lucky enough to have a few friends like that. it's good to have them, and to cherish them because they deserve it.

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  29. you beat me into writing my next topic! I think someone's got a big crush~... ^_^

    diaries of an indistinctive writer

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  30. I'm glad you have someone like Jesse - good friends are hard to come by!

    I'm the same with Facebook, I only have seventeen friends. I could delete more but it would probably cause upset so I don't. I know how you feel about people who didn't talk or care about you trying to add you on Facebook. Why bother?! I've blocked all my old high school "friends" so they can't bother me with pointless requests.

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  31. @Max Power Nawww I know her actual soul mate, it ain't me. But there are people who believe you can have more than one, that a soul mate doesn't have to be a lover, maybe they be right. I always try to at least read what other people have said, even if I don't reply to it. I think I'd get at least one reply from Jesse if I said I was drinking in public, pissed myself and got arrested, but it would be along the lines of "Why am I not surprised?"

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  32. @Bersercules The days when you actually had to kill yourself was better in my opinion. Nope I'm not 17, though that was a decent year for me. I loved and lost for the first time. I use Facebook mostly to chat with Jesse and keep up with how she's doing, I barely ever post a status of my own.

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  33. @Astaroth I refrain myself from being a smartass. On Facebook at least. IRL though I'm a huge sarcastic smartass. Pedantry is fun.

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  34. @Indistinctive Writer LOL Her girlfriend did once outright ask me if I was in love with her. The short simple answer is I don't know what love is, I just know her and her girlfriend have it, so I'm good.

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  35. @Hazel Good friends are hard to come by, it's why you only have 1 or two a lifetime! I think back when I made my account, and they all started adding me, I accepted in some kind of vain hope that they actually wanted to talk to me, but they just wanted to fuel their own ego. Only one of them took the time to talk to me, once. I'd delete them but I don't really see the point.

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  36. @Mark

    Complain ? I agree with you 100%, and nowadays women are just as guilty as men of that one.
    Shallowness abounds.
    Also just wanted to add that I consider my best friend (also female and we are not gay) a soulmate. We think, act, feel the same. Know when each other is feeling good or bad...can almost read each others minds.
    You do not have to be lovers to be soulmates.

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  37. @dirtycowgirl I'll refrain from any half sexist comment I could make and just say "I like you" lol. If someone could read my mind one of two things would happen. 1) they would go crazy, or 2) I would go crazy. It's something best left untouched.

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  38. I don't just pass out comments or +1's because that's backwards and silly.
    I genuinely liked this post, among a few others I've had the privilege of reading from you.
    I actually read this twice today, but now I'm able to provide my insight.
    Fortunately, I relate. I relate so hard, I felt as if you've taken a visit to Chicago and wrote about me instead.
    Highschool was like this, but I didn't really care too tough about social interactions there.
    :D
    One friend of mine had been there for me through the thick and thin, and I had been there for him equally. Atleast, I'd think so.

    Nice post, to say the least. I heartily enjoyed it.

    I don't know what to think of the pony element though.

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  39. Thumbs up to real friends, thumbs down to fucking facebook. I hate it so much, but it's like a fucking addiction. It's useful enough, but I feel this unconscious need to check it every goddamn day. And I still post shit on it. What the hell is wrong with me? Fucking got its talons in me bad.

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  40. @Majin_Curse Basically like I said I wanted to call this post Friendship Is Magic, but didn't want to disappoint the legion of people who would come here expecting ponies, because of My Little Pony:Friendship Is Magic. In the end though I just gave in and posted a picture of a pony. Thanks for taking the time to actually read it twice ^^ As long as you have one friend like that, you can get through pretty much anything.

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  41. @Generally Disgruntled I check Facebook every couple of hours or so, in the vain hope something has happened. It very rarely has. I check Twitter compulsively now though. Feels pretty damn bad, man.

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