Friday, 30 September 2011

Don't Judge A Book By It's Cover

Sorry folks but this one isn't about books. I can already hear you closing your browser tabs, but stick with me. This falls under the writing challenge, Bob told me to do a post about why I don't like freckles. Really, I don't think I would have been able to do that, so instead just turned into a whole "not judging a book by it's cover" post about not just freckles, but many other physical "imperfections". I'm just going to point out, as usual, that I'm a grade A++ hypocrite when it comes to this, and that's kind of sad considering my past.

We all have our own personal preferences when it comes to looks, and so I'm going to try and talk more about what we look for in a partner, rather than just generally judging a person based on what they look like. Possibly as well the things people will do in the interests of "looking pretty". Here's a protip. LAY OFF THE FAKE TAN. Or the real tan for that matter. I've seriously never got that. I don't get the appeal of tans, but like I said, each to their own.

The original point was the point of freckles. I'll admit they can be cute, but too many of them and I'm just not going to look at you that much. It's just what I like. But if I got to know you, chances are, I might really like you for who you are. I give a horrible first impression, not just physically, so very few people have taken the time to actually get to know me. But I think when you get used to me, I can be a pretty cool guy.

Some people like girls as skinny as possible, some people like them as fat as possible, some people like really muscular guys, and some can take a guy who looks a bit scrawny. Some people even have racial preferences, preferring blacks, whites or Asians. There are people who will only go with exclusively people of a certain "race". These people are typically branded racists sometimes, but that's a topic for another day. I need to keep track of how many times I've said that, I might get some ideas.

I like me a red-haired girl, but I'm not that fond of freckles, I can take the pale skin though. I'm quite a pale person myself. I'd like to say that when I look at a person, I really look at them, who they are inside, and sometimes I really do. I've seen beauty in some places people wouldn't think to find it, and I've seen beauty in people that would never be thought of as such. I've also seen a lot of ugliness in "beautiful" people. This song, Beautifool by Wuthering Heights (the same guys behind the Apathy Divine suite I posted not long ago) sums up most of my thoughts on "beautiful" people, so I'll just stop the rant here.



Now, onto the typically smiley conclusion that makes you glad you read several paragraphs of crap and is just what I should have posted in the first place to save time and effort. Everyone has personal preferences, everyone has something they consider pretty that someone else might not. So if you don't think you're that pretty, fret not your little head, for there is someone else who does. Also, don't judge a person straight away, look inside them, and see who they really are. Maybe that guy or girl you turned down because of their appearance could have become someone who you really wanted, if only you were willing to have every bit of them, instead of just the bits you wanted. If you truly consider yourself ugly, at least physically, then you know you can do something to change it, and it is up to you to do so. I on the other hand am not so lucky, as I have inner, as well as outer, ugliness.

Also here is a paragraph of lyrics from the song, if you aren't going to listen to it, I at least suggest reading the lyrics
"I can see how through life you play
Who would do you harm
But in the dark
Where your beauty won't light your way
Know this to be true:
There I'm stronger than you"

35 comments:

  1. but can't help it, physical appearances usually comes first :(

    but for me, sometimes, first impression never last.

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  2. @Mai Yang My biggest problem is that I give a terrible first impression, but this has probably saved me from many people. It is something that can't be helped no, and physical appearance will probably always come first. I'm just saying look beyond that as well.

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  3. there's always someone out there who thinks i'm worthy of a screw. i'm sure there's people out there who think the same of you.

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  4. @A Lunatic Pope Well I'm not exactly looking to get laid right now really. I think I just lied lol. I'm more one of the people who knows what they can do to improve themselves and is doing it.

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  5. Wise words :) Lay of the fake tan indeed... silly world.

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  6. I have a theory, that pretty girls are usually the more interesting and "fun" ones, because they are not totally fucked up in the head, by constantly being depressed and having complexes because of the fact, that they're not attractive. Most guys want a pretty girl, me included. So when you are "unatractive", aware of it and your life kinda revolves around finding good partner who to have kids with and stuff (which is pretty much the females' biological goal.. you know, evolution and stuff), it might mess you up.

    But yeah, I guess there's more to a person than looks and I don't really care about those when I'm looking for a friend.. but not girlfriend - I want that one to be sexy.

    Also, freckles being regarded as "imperfections"? What HERESY is this?!

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  7. sometimes you only get one chance to get to know a person; so your first impression is your last impression...

    i have a thing for skinny-nerdy guys lol~

    physical beauty is important for me for proceation purposes

    lastly, i believe true beauty is the beauty of the mind. i easily lose interest whenever i talk to shallow people. example: an office-mate who spent the entire lunch-break talking about a shoe brand, or worse someone who talks too much about him/her self

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  8. @Bob this is generally the case sometimes, but not all times. You also have people who grow up pretty, and as such don't learn to take care of themselves, or become conceited. A girl who grows up pretty but doesn't let it go to her head and still strives to be the best she can, that would be a cool girl. A girlfriend or boyfriend does have to be physically attractive too for the relationship to work. I think some people don't like admitting it but it's true.

    @Indistinctive Writer I have a thing for skinny nerdy guys too, as long as they have long hair :P I just love long hair both on a guy and a girl. I've said before I give a terrible first impression so I won't bore you with that again lol. I wouldn't be able to talk with people like that either. Shallow people are people I'm not so interested in.

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  9. It's human instinct to judge by physical appearance and choose the best partner from that.
    It's good-minded decency to screw instinct and follow your own morals.

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  10. @Fang both correct and good things to think on. When choosing a mate it is human nature to go for the one that you think will bear the best children, such as one with "child-bearing hips".

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  11. I think I give off a bad first impression too. I think I come across as aloof or snobby when I'm really not lol.

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  12. @Hazel if it helps I think you're quite a nice person, but I met you through your blog, I don't know what impression you give IRL. I give one of laziness and slobishness, and shabbiness. I'm also crude and rude, but no attitude.

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  13. how did this post about freckles lead to child-bearing hips again? lol~

    hags have long hair too! O_o nyeehihihi~

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  14. @Indisctinctive Writer Bob made the point that when he chooses a girlfriend, she has to be physically appealing (so much better to say than "sexy"), and I said that this is true, men are genetically wired to choose a female they think will be best at rearing children, such as those with hips that look like the baby is simply going to fall out of her. As long as someone is there to catch it. Hags have long hair but I'm yet to see one covered in men. I don't really want to see that either.

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  15. I agree with all you say, but there are a lot of shallow people out there, and always will be. I like to get to know people properly before forming an opinion about them, and that opinion can change over time, but if I meet someone and it's instant dislike that never changes.

    IRL I generally come across as being a cunt.
    Probably because I am.

    I suppose if you were with a freckly person and got bored you could always play join the dots.

    ps gonna publish the story in a a bit :)

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  16. @Dirtycowgirl Okay but I'm with Jesse tonight so I might not even notice it's up lol, but I'll put a link to it (or at least to your blog) in tomorrows post. I can come across as a bit of a cunt but I've learnt to just keep my mouth closed over the years. There are a lot of shallow people, but we do need them around as well, even if we don't really want to admit it.

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  17. Over the years I've learnt to just say it lol.
    Have fun tonight then :)

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  18. @Dirtycowgirl it'd be nicer if my niece would leave us alone lol, but I'm having fun. Except for this drink I mixed. It went green, tastes foul, and I just want to finish it off. She's drank five cans already herself lol.

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  19. I'm one of those people who exclusively go for one race! And I've got some racist in me! hoo hoo hahaha

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  20. You always have epicly long blog posts lol

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  21. ARe you really me Mark?
    "I give a horrible first impression, not just physically, so very few people have taken the time to actually get to know me. But I think when you get used to me, I can be a pretty cool guy."

    Did you copy paste my personality? hahaha Nah I bet we are cloned personality. I see my self as unworthy of others as I see others unworthy of me.

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  22. I don't care about beauty.
    Spend years with a girl who is average and everyday as you fall deeper and deeper in love she looks better and better. I think my girlfriend is the most beautiful woman I know, but I know everyone else would disagree.

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  23. @Dilord I would say that sometimes I don't consider myself worthy of others, but othertimes I also think that I do deserve them, and if they were worth knowing, they'd have took the time to know me for who I really am.

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  24. @Bersercules Awwwww that's really sweet :) I know other people who feel like that too, and it's true. Whoever she is she's a lucky woman.

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  25. Craigslist will solve all your problems man. Nahh just kidding.
    On a serious note, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I admit though that looks matter. It's not ok, we all know that, but that's how world works. The beauty of the internet is that you actually get to know other people without even knowing how they look and you get a better grasp of their personality. It can't replace real human contact though. Also you could use the "rejection" as a fuel for a change. Not to please others, but to please yourself.

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  26. @Haisdic Dude No Cragslist are full of gay people here in Canada hahahaha

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  27. @Hasidic Plumber All very good points really :) I make friends with people a lot easier online really.

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  28. TIL, fake tan. There's actually stuff like that?

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  29. i love my freckles. BUt still am glad I don't have that much especially on my face.
    For me, Sense of humor comes first that looks

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  30. @R.gers Sadly yes, I've seen people so orange they don't even look human anymore, or we're going to start having "orange pride marches".

    @Yen Freckles can be cute in small doses to me, I have a sense of humour but you'll soon hate me for it really lol

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  31. Ew ew fake tans?
    I don't get it. I mean I'm Indian, where the fairness industry is probably one of the most booming industries, which is why I don't get why u would want to look ORANGE.
    Like Pippa Middleton. ew.

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  32. @Cricketfreak I like natural tans and think Indians can look pretty nice, but I'm with you. Why orange? I still think one day we're going to get Orange Pride parades. People weren't staring at Pippa Middletons face they were too busy looking at her ass. Not me though, when that was on I was too busy playing games I think.

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